Thursday, 27 February 2014

Why Men Are Afraid Of Commitment

Why will a man not want to commit to a woman he supposedly loves? This question is quite baffling to many single ladies out there. You know that your man loves you and should commit to you with ease, but alas, he is not ready to commit. Below are reasons why some men behave this way:

1. Fear of Taking on Responsibility
Men know that when they commit, they must be ready to take on responsibility such as bringing money home to take care of the family's needs, maintaining and protecting the family. It will interest you to know that some men just don't like to think about the kinds of responsibility that come with getting married to a woman and having children. They prefer to remain single.

2. Past hurtful experience
Some men will like to commit to women, but they find it difficult to do so because they have either being dumped or cheated on by someone they really loved. A man told me a story about how he was cheated on and dumped by a lady that he so much loved. The lady came from a poor family and so couldn't afford to go to the higher institution (college). The man volunteered to train her all through her studies. Unknowingly to him, the lady got involved with another man (married) in the campus and was playing games with her partner. The man did not know what was going on until she finished her course of studies. She told him that they can't be together because she doesn't love him like anymore. The man was very angry and disappointed. It was later he learnt that she got married as a second wife to the man she was seeing in her school days. Not too long after that, there was a problem in her marriage and the man threw her out. Meanwhile, this man who sponsored the lady in school couldn't move on with his love life. He found it very difficult to trust ladies again after having wasted his money and time waiting for the love of his life. It took a long time for him to heal and today, he is happily married.

This kind of experience can make a man feel that it is useless committing to a woman, where there is a high risk of breakup. However, I have seen such men overcome their fears with a lot of patience, love and time to heal.

3. Fear of missing out on the most beautiful woman
Some men will not commit because they don't want to miss out on the most beautiful woman that is yet to show up. You may be a very nice person and beautiful in your own way, but something still tells him that there is someone else out there who is more beautiful, nicer and more sexier than you.
Guys, why are you afraid of commitment?


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